Ten Signs You Are A Bad Parent

January 25, 2010 | 37 Comments

There are many signs that parents aren’t doing a good job as parents. All you have to do is look around at the millions of people living out the results of their own bad parenting to know that. Take a moment and look at these ten signs and evaluate how you are doing:

Ten Signs You Are A Bad Parent

If you don’t know where your child is right now,
you are a bad parent.

If your child is obese,
you are a bad parent.

If your child has a television in their bedroom,
you are a bad parent.

If you don’t know your child’s friends,
you are a bad parent.

If you tolerate disrespect from your child verbally or physically, you are a bad parent.

If you promise consequences for either good behavior or bad behavior and don’t deliver, you are a bad parent.

If you don’t teach your child about money,
you are a bad parent.

If you don’t have open, honest communication with your child about sex; the dangers, consequences and joy of it,
you are a bad parent.

If your grown child still lives at home and mooches off you,
you are a bad parent.

If your own life is an example of what you don’t want your child to grow up and become, you are a bad parent.

Some of you are now spewing and sputtering and shouting “yeah but” at me because your kids are great yet they have a TV in their room or are overweight or blah, blah, blah-de-blah-de-blah! Okay, you can tell yourself that, and since I don’t know you or your kid I’ll step back and give you the benefit of the doubt. But I still don’t believe you. Just because you don’t see the harmful results of your action or inaction today, doesn’t mean that you won’t later.

“But I genuinely LOVE my kids Larry!”

I’m sure you do. But we have to stop pretending that the definition of being a good parent is “loving your child.” Parenting is MORE than love. Parenting is loving your child enough to make sure you produce a responsible, productive fit adult who lives a life steeped in honesty, integrity and respect. An adult with a strong work ethic who knows how to give her word and keep it even when it isn’t convenient. A person who knows how to be financially responsible by earning, investing, saving, giving and enjoying their money. That requires communication, involvement, education, discipline and punishment. It requires work. Love without the actions to back it up doesn’t really mean much.

If you want proof about the damaging effects of these ten signs and more, read my book, Your Kids Are Your Own Fault: A Guide For Raising Responsible Productive Adults. Go to www.yourkidsareyourownfault.com

Posted by Larry Winget | Filed Under Money & Personal Dev 

The Lazy Man’s Theory of Relativity

August 30, 2009 | 21 Comments

The Lazy Man’s Theory Of Relativity.

I want to make it clear from the start that this rant was inspired by Troy Sammons. He wrote me on Facebook with his comments that I have included below. It was so good that I suggested to him that he write more and put it out there somewhere but he said for me to run with it if I wanted to. So I am going to add a bit to what was already a great email he sent me, but I want to say thanks to Troy upfront for his inspiration.

From Troy: “It is my observation that there is a growing epidemic of excuses that I call the “Lazy Man’s Theory of Relativity.” Americans seem to continually measure their position or situation in relative terms that makes their lazy lifestyles appear more successful. Let me give a few examples: I am relatively thin compared to that fat guy; I’m relatively rich compared to that broke ass over there; I work relatively hard compared to the narcoleptic janitor; I’m a relatively great parent compared to that woman wearing the muumuu feeding her kid Twinkies for lunch; or the worst one—we are relatively free compared to people in other countries.

What has happened that has enabled us to give up on our ideals and settle for relative success or perfection? Why are we always on the search for that loser whose life sucks more than ours so we can remind ourselves how good we are doing. I can’t stand it when someone makes relative comparisons to make the current situation appear less painful or pathetic.”

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Posted by Larry Winget | Filed Under Money & Personal Dev